Sunday, August 29, 2010

The early bird catches the worm

Golden rules for finding your life partner

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,
it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to

finding Mr. /Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,

they'll say: "We're in love". I believe this is the #1 mistake people

make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on


Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound

truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is

the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right,

then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a

lifetime relationship on love alone". You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about

finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION 1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important?

Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a

long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other

all that time?

Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and

more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage:

(1) You can grow together, or

(2) You can grow apart.

50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work,

you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry

someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this

person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your

relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this

person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust

that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts

and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone

with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be

honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe

with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch? A mensch is someone who is a refined and

sensitive person. How can you test?

Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular

basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine

defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and

do the right ".So ask your significant other what do they do with their

time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is

not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world:

(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth, and

(2) People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.

Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal

comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before

walking down the aisle.

QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the

ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person


Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they

wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about

the following:

How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as

waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.

How do they treat their parents and siblings?

Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude

for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much

for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will

eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person

after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention

of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of

mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage

for the worse". If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are

now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.

The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with

your heart.

It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; so be sure

to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on

your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you

didn't do your homework.

Another perspective....There are some people in your life that need to

be loved from a distance....

It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least

minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going

anywhere relationships.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention....Which ones lift

and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?

Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going

downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel

worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or

appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and

truth around you....the easier it will become for you to decide who gets

to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your

life. An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes

open, and after you marry, close one eye". Before you get involved and

make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation,

immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make

you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself

that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn't really

that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and

compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What

do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past

hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to

alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you

won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness

or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the

wrong reasons to be in a relationship.








7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes)




If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as

resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty;

and pain will replace it.

Happiness keeps You Sweet,

Trials keep You Strong,

Sorrows keep You Human,

Failures keep You Humble,

Success keeps You Glowing,

But..........Only faith keeps You Going!

"In search for me, I discovered truth. In search for truth, I

discovered love and in search for love, I discovered faith.

In faith, I have found everything." "Obstacles are those frightful

things you see when you take your eyes off your goals."

Dov Heller, M.A

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Da Matic



Tips on filling your vehicles

I don't know what you guys are paying for petrol... but here in Durban, we are also paying higher, up to 10.50 per litre. But my line of work is in petroleum for about 31 years now, so here are some tricks to get more of your money's worth for every litre. Here at the Marian Hill Pipeline, where I work in Durban, we deliver about 4 million litres in a 24-hour period thru the pipeline. One day is diesel; the next day is jet fuel, and petrol, LRP and Unleaded. We have 34-storage tanks here with a total capacity of 16,800,000 litres.

ONLY BUY OR FILL UP YOUR CAR OR BIKKIE IN THE EARLY MORNING WHEN THE GROUND TEMPERATURE IS STILL COLD. Remember that all service stations have their storage tanks buried below ground. The colder the ground, the denser the fuel, when it gets warmer petrol expands, so buying in the afternoon or in the evening... your litre is not exactly a litre. In the petroleum business, the specific gravity and the temperature of the petrol, diesel and jet fuel, ethanol and other petroleum products play an important role. A 1degree rise in temperature is a big deal for this business. But the service stations do not have temperature compensation at the pumps.

WHEN YOU'RE FILLING UP, DO NOT SQUEEZE THE TRIGGER OF THE NOZZLE TO A FAST MODE. If you look, you will see that the trigger has three (3) stages: low, middle, and high. In slow mode, you should be pumping on low speed, thereby minimizing the vapours that are created, while you are pumping. All hoses at the pump have a vapour return. If you are pumping on the fast rate, some of the liquid that goes to your tank becomes vapour. Those vapours are being sucked up and back into the underground storage tank so you're getting less worth for your money.

ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT TIPS IS TO FILL UP WHEN YOUR TANK IS HALF FULL. The reason for this is, the more fuel you have in your tank, the less air occupying its empty space. Petrol evaporates faster than you can imagine. Petroleum storage tanks have an internal floating roof. This roof serves as zero clearance between the petrol and the atmosphere, so it minimizes the evaporation. Unlike service stations, here where I work, every truck that we load is temperature compensated, so that every litre is actually the exact amount.

ANOTHER REMINDER, IF THERE IS A FUEL TRUCK PUMPING INTO THE STORAGE TANKS, WHEN YOU STOP TO BUY, DO NOT FILL UP - most likely the petrol/diesel is being stirred up as the fuel is being delivered, and you might pick up some of the dirt that normally settles on the bottom.

Hope, this will help you get the maximum value for your money.

What dick are you getting?

When the guy is extremely handsome, he says the right things and does the right things. When it comes to sex, he is lacking in that department. He sucks your tits too damn hard, kisses your mouth too long, stays around your neck forever, fingers you like a gym doctor, licks your pussy like he's trying to lick melting ice cream off his sleeve and has a verrrry small dick. You try to give him some head (oral sex), only to find that you are actually sucking idummy yomntana. This is so miserable. You think, "how can a guy so fine, so polite be so wack?" To top everything off ladies, how about just when in your mind you're going to try to get the best out of this, even if you have to make yourself come, and he beats you to it and comes first. Damn!!

This is funny dick. He eats MAJOR pussy. He eats it so good your knees feel a little weak. Its good enough to make you shed a tear. Then he puts his dick in, just for you to realize that you cannot really feel it!! His stroke is off and non-rhythmic. You work with it by riding on it yourself as if you were in a Wild Wild West Movie. You hold your pelvis really tight and try to visualize the last big dick you had, just to get your mind off this 1less-filling2 dick. It's funny because in the man's mind he'll say that we just have big pussies from having too much sex and that is why we cannot feel him. Only for them to forget that the pussy is a muscle that accommodates the size of the penis.

Well, how would we define this type of dick girls? You see, online they have a lot of good game, but you never know what to expect in person. Then you meet and you fuck and the shit is trash. They have such good game that you're expecting him to take your panties off with his teeth, but HE COULD NOT MAKE YOU CUM!!!

I believe this is dick we ladies all can testify to. Whoa! This is the type of dick you misjudged. You saw some signs of weakness in this man. He always caters to you and really does not discuss what he can do in bed with you. When kissing him, you notice you make his knees weak. You hold out on giving him some and tease him for a while. You know what size dick he has because you have either:
a) Already given him a mean ass blowjob or
b) Stroked it while he was wearing pants or boxers.
c) Or seen him in his swim wear: wet.
So, you thought in your mind, "I am going to put it on him" only to find he laid the "SMACK DOWN" on your pussy. He had you in a figure eight, twisted to the point where you can't breath. You were so overwhelmed that you could not even speak. Your whole pre-calculated fuck was down the drain. He had more game than you. He's like an energizer bunny that keeps going and going. Now you look at him in a different light: you think twice about fucking him because you're scared, but its good enough to do again.

Now this is the DICK that pisses me off the most. You see, the guy you're sleeping with punishes your pussy. If he has a bad day at work, he "punishes your pussy." If he has a bad meal, "he punishes your pussy." If he is pissed off at you, he "punishes your pussy..." No matter what, he "punishes your pussy." It is easy to tell if the guy you're with falls into this category. He always uses phrases like these when he is fucking you:
"Andithi ubuthe uyayi funa?!."
"How does that feel... you like that baby?
"WHO'S Pussy IS THIS"?

Ladies who have cheated on their man temporarily can say, "AMEN" to this type of dick. Ladies, this is the type of dick that makes you cry and confess to your man you fucked someone else. The guilty dick made you want to tell somebody. Guilty dick is in a class of its own. Guilty dick will make you look and feel different about the DICK you get at home. Guilty dick makes you have multiple orgasms in 1 hour. It makes you cry and you have no clue why. This dick is so intense; when it is being administered it sends you into a trance, you start speaking in tongues, you forget his name, even your own: hew!... He has a slow, loooong stroke, sweats on you, asks you if you're comfortable with how he s sexing you:. about six times, you started at 6 p.m. and it is now going on 9 p.m.. and he is not tired and hasn't come yet and the lips on your pussy get swollen and juicer. He licks on your pussy as if he was a kitten licking warm milk, uyayi nambitha, like you're the main course meal. He smells it like fine wine. By now you're in shock and forget about your man. He has at least 10cm more than your man. When you're back with your man, you're wondering why he can't perform like guilty dick. You even have the nerve to get mad and then instruct him to do what Guilty dick did to you.

This is good convenient dick. Easy dick. Dick you can call when your body needs a fix. He gives you major licking like guilty dick, and fucks you like guilty dick. Only thing is, you do not have a man so you're not feeling guilty. Whenever you call, this dick is ready. Dial-a-Dick. His dick craves your pussy always. This dick is available in any place at anytime.

Ladies, now this is dick that will definitely send you to hell if you're not married to it. This dick is just like pleasurable and guilty dick. His dick is anywhere from 15 to 20cm long and has the circumference of the old five rand coin. This DICK makes you numb, literally, makes you cry and pray all at the same time. While he is giving it doggy style, you look towards the heavens and silently say, "OH MY GOD THIS IS SOME GOOD DICK!"

This is the gold mine of dicks!!! This dick is the dick that you commit yourself to. You do not cheat on it, and you keep it a well kept secret. In fact you constantly crave and feign for this dick. When you get this dick, you go into convulsions. This is the dick that makes you ever-ready!!! You will call in sick for work for this dick. This dick is so good, it is overwhelmed dick, pleasurable dick, guilty dick and 1the oh my god2 dick ... ALL IN ONE. This is the dick you want to put insurance on just in case anything should happen to it. This dick makes you stutter while speaking of it and has you nervous for no fathomable reason!!!!


Email security

This has been talked about many times, yet emails come through with a dozen or more email addresses in the heading. You can't believe how vulnerable you are making your contacts when you do this.

Do you wonder why you get viruses or excessive amounts of junk mail (Spam)? Every time you forward an e-mail there is information left over from the people who received the message before you and sent it to you, namely their e-mail addresses and names. As the messages get forwarded along, the list of addresses builds, and builds, and builds. All it takes is for some poor sap to get a virus, and his or her computer can send that virus to every e-mail address that has come across their computer. Or, someone can take all of those addresses and send junk mail to them or sell the addresses to spammers in the hope that you will go to the site and they will make five cents for each hit that they sell. All this because of that inconvenience over “5 cents” and because someone included visible e-mail addresses in their Forwarded message!

How do you stop it? Well, there are 4 things to do:

1. When you forward an e-mail, DELETE all of the other addresses that appear in the body of the message (at the top). You must click the "Forward" button first though; then you will have full editing capabilities for the body and headers of the message. For a professional result, this a great time to correct spelling and remove, those pesky "send this to 10 friends and your wish will come true" false promises.

2. Whenever you send an e-mail to more than one person, do not use the To: or Cc: options for adding e-mail addresses. Always use the BCC: (Blind Carbon Copy) option for listing the e-mail addresses of the folks you want to send the message to. This way the people you send to only see their own e-mail address and no one else's. If you don't see your BCC: option, click on where it says To: and your address list will appear. Highlight the address and choose BCC. This provides extra security and privacy to all the people in your address book.

3. Remove any "FW:" in the subject line. You can rename the subject if you wish or even correct spelling.

4. ALWAYS hit your Forward button from the actual e-mail you are reading. Ever get those e-mails that you have to open 20+ pages with many “Fw:” lines on them in order to read the one page with the information on it? By Forwarding from the actual final page you wish someone to view, you’re preventing their having to open multiple pages just to see what you sent. Many people will not open all those E-Mails for fear of getting a virus; so your message may go unread.

Please note that Bill Gates; MTN; VODACOM and the likes do not give away money; cell phones; etc just because you forwarded an email to everyone on your contact list! There is NO WAY that they track an email as it is forwarded by thousands of wishful thinkers around the world. Think about it: R100.00 to each who forwards an email would bankrupt even Bill Gates should he ever be foolish enough to promise this! The same applies to emails stating that if you send to a number of people within a few minutes of receiving the email you will have “good luck, receive an inheritance, receive a phone call with great news”. Likewise with the threat of bad luck should you not forward the email. It has never happened before and never will.

Have you ever received an email that is a petition? It states a position and asks you to add your name and address and to Forward it to a number of people or your entire Address Book. The email can be Forwarded on and on and can collect thousands of names and email addresses. The fact is that the completed petition is actually worth a couple of bucks to a professional spammer because of the wealth of valid names and email addresses contained therein. If you want to support the petition, send it as your own personal letter to the intended recipient(s). Your position may carry more weight as a personal letter than a laundry list of names and email address on a petition - and, again, you will protect the privacy of those in your address book and provide them additional security against viruses and spammers. Also, be aware, that the government (state, and local) and most legitimate organizations completely disregard email petitions. In order for a petition to have value and be acted upon, it is necessary to have live, verifiable signatures, usually with the signer’s legitimate mailing address.

So please, in the future, let's stop the junk mail and the viruses by working together and respecting the privacy and security of one another.